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jesseledesma's Articles In Health & Medicine
December 19, 2008 by jesseledesma
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     The inspiration for this article was the Dr. Phil show.  Yesterday, I was watching as he discussed the possible murder by a mother of a three year old girl.  My first though was why isn’t a mental health professional talking about the mental health issues related to such behaviors.  The answer is that the Dr. Phil show is a talk show hosted by a person who at one tim...
June 26, 2008 by jesseledesma
     What is stress.  Stress can be anything that puts pressure on a person.  The demands of a job, relationship, home life can be stress.Verbal  and physical abuse can be stress.

     Our fear and anxities can be stress.  Every thing we fear and worry about can cause tension and pressure.  In fact some of us are trained very well by life how to worry and be anxious.

      What we do not understand we...
August 30, 2007 by jesseledesma
Today I am going to leave my political and religious hat aside and concentrate on mental health. The review of how officials handled the massacre at V-Tech came out today.

In it are many flawed statements and the conclusions that sound like CYA to me. However, I plan to speak on an even distressing subject, mental health in America.

My first point is that mental health carries negative stigma attached to it. People, even today, like to ridicule people with mental health issues. This i...
January 21, 2007 by jesseledesma
In life, we have the opportunity to choose bad philosophy or good philosophy. Unfortunately, many of us choose the wrong way.

I have seen how we involve ourselves in decisions just from having an idea that has to do with a need. For example, you meet someone on Tuesday at 3pm and by 415pm the same day you are engaged to be married.

Another example is you have been suffering from an annoying urge to leave your job so you finally quit on the spot. You never thought about all the implicati...
January 17, 2007 by jesseledesma
[Under no circumstance is the following a substitute for medical or mental health treatment. Any one experiences medical and mental hardship they cannot manage should see a treatment professional.]

What do you tell a person who is suffering from serious emotional turmoil? Well you tell them the same thing you tell a diabetic or a person with heart trouble.

This is that you have an illness and the way to deal with it is through treatment.

The next point that is helpful is to stop scari...
July 9, 2006 by jesseledesma
I found the information “Redesigning Your Role as a Parent” in the Family Education web site (http://www.familyeducation.com/home/).

My intent was to do a BLOG entry on parenting. However, this is information is as perfect as it can get when dealing with children.

I would say the reason we have so many problem people in our society is that we have so many people who have children but do not know how to raise them.

The one constant mistake I see is the parent who thinks that just beca...
July 8, 2006 by jesseledesma
This BLOG entry is on violent media and violent behavior.

I see violence as an outward act that is the result of anger and high emotions. If I kick a soccer ball, am I being violent? I would say no. Now if I kick the soccer ball because it has made me angry then I am being violent.


Therefore, I say malicious intent is important. To many research studies on violence in media consider just mimicking a behavior as violent. I wonder how much a six year old knows about his or her behavio...
June 16, 2006 by jesseledesma
No man is worth it.

Unfortunately, many of us go through our developmental years not receiving the necessary nutrients to develop properly.

This lack of proper guidance leaves many of us with a skewed perception of life and our selves.

This blog entry is on security and romance. I find it strange that I have not written on this subject before since I know the “abusive personality” very well. My father was very physically abusive and my ex-wife was abusive in all manners. In addition,...
June 7, 2006 by jesseledesma
What do I have to offer?I believe our mental health issues are a reflection of our relationship with the one and only true God.He made us for peace. The enemy prefers that we stress out, leave in fear, and abuse our selves with our extreme behaviors.However, there is assistance when we cannot deal with the challenges of life. There are hotline numbers, community mental health centers, private mental health professionals, and church counselors.I also, offer my services to the world community.I ...
May 28, 2006 by jesseledesma
These are some things to know before you start a long-term relationship.

You must have a willingness to allow some one in your life.

You must have true affection for the person.

You must be prepared to care for the person.

You must be prepared to let the person care for you.

You must have ways to be part of each other’s lives.

You must have good money sense.

You must understand the concept of building a home together.

You must have a sense of parenthood.

You must have ...
February 15, 2006 by jesseledesma
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The following video entry to this blog are my thoughts about the possibility that some people are keeping themselves from living because they think the "sky is falling". In addition, I share thoghts on stoping to think and starting to live.




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January 13, 2006 by jesseledesma
Welcome,This is the entry I was wooried about making. The subject here is how to change personal philosophy. I speak on issues like buying in to the program, checking your pitfalls, setting goals and objectives, and understanding people.Free video hosting, video codes at www.vidiLife.comAlegria Online Shopping Mall
August 4, 2005 by jesseledesma
Fighting for control. Well are you a mature person who can contribute to a healthy marriage?

Why do people fight for control? The invisible emotional issues that make people fight for control were acquired during the developmental process.

Okay let me define the issue. On this article, I am addressing people who spend their time needling their mate over petty issues.

Both men and women suffer from this problem. In addition, it causes a lot of strife and turmoil.

The autonomic ner...
February 19, 2005 by jesseledesma
Overview of the Brain’s Biology
Influence on Depression and an Associative Disorder

When we study at university, we have the advantage of learning a subjective at a more in depth level. Sometimes this lends to better perspective. This paper is the result of comparing theory of human behavior with known medical science that explains the brain’s biological influence on human behavior. The focus of this paper is to show examples of how the biology of the human brain, including physiolog...