Emotions are real. Under no circumstance will we get far in our quest for a better life if we do not respect emotions.

I say through our encounter with life with upload emotional residue. To me it is residue because at the time of the event it was okay, but by now we should of let go of it.

It is okay though. Every thing we experience is valid because we are humans and this how we function.

The however, is that overwhelming emotion can interfere in our desire for a better life. Furthermore, trying to pretend that we do not suffer from extreme emotions will complicate our efforts. You cannot fix what you do not acknowledge exist.

Now what emotions am I talking about? Well anger, depression, lust, fear, frustration, and all the rest.

I have learned to deal with am emotion by accepting that I have it. Then I look at what is good and bad. It is good that I can feel. It is bad to allow the emotion to control me.

See just cause we feel something does not mean we get to act on it. In addition, there is no reason to torture your self. We have gone through a life that has given us extreme emotions. Moreover, we are human and part of being human is feeling emotions.

It is essential that you recognize that you are a good person and worthy of peace. Also, you have to like your self enough to take care of your self.

This battle “with in” can be resolved if you start being your best friend and start taking care of your self.

Another point is that you are not transparent. Therefore no one can see your mental turmoil. That fear that people can see what you perceive as wrong in you is not real. No one can read your mind.

Also these emotions have a real basis. An overbearing parent, an abusive spouse, and not enough guidance through you developmental years are some of these bases.

You can resolve them recognizing that they exist, being real about how they influence your spirit, find a positive reaction, liking your self, and taking care of your self.

Nothing I say implies an over night solution. Things take time. Things also require work. In my opinion you have to exercise these emotions.

Taking a personal inventory can also help. How do I feel and why do I feel this way are good questions to ask our selves.

Then put things in a healthy and positive perspective. Being real is always positive and healthy.

Holding the right person responsible for the emotion is also healthy. Most of the time we are the one responsible for our emotions. Only we can decide what we are going to feel. A person may want to hurt us but we, in our minds, decide which emotion to feel.

It is to bad that our society teaches to always go for the bad emotions first. I convinced we are trained to be problem solvers and we see everything as our problem.

Life is not a problem and we are not responsible for everything. But we can give ourselves a spiritual embrace, tell our selves things are going to be okay, and start to compose a plan of action that is healthy and positive.