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Know what you want and go for it.
Published on June 8, 2006 By jesseledesma In Personal Relationships
There come a time when you have stop thinking about life and start living life.

It is a tragedy to think of how many people are spending their lives wishing there was some one they could share their lives with.

Now there are issues for men and issues for women when talking about taking steps to be in a relationship.

A man has to pursue, most of the time. These means he has to have courage to over come his fear of rejection and being laughed at.

How does a shy man over come his disease? Well you have to start talking to women. Then you make friends. Then you ask one of your women friends, who you sense an attraction to and who you sense may be attracted to you, out on a date.
You date, have sex, she leaves you, and the cycle starts all over again.

Now this requires practices. Some women are standoffish. Some are more afraid of being asked out than you are of asking then out. Either way the way to get good at asking women out is to ask women out.

I go by the rule of a hundred. You will have to ask out a hundred to get one to accept you. See, so rejection is part of the process.

The secret is to not take it personal. You will not accomplish much in life if people’s opinions of you traumatize you.

Okay, I should have started with the first thing first. Being in any relationship will cost money. Make sure you are where you want to be financially in life before you start to date.

Who knows you just might get a woman and soon as you get them, pregnant you will never see your wallet again; that is if they do no confiscate it from you on your first meeting.

Oh, and get over your lumpy-lumpy self. Exercise, eat right, dress right, and develop a pleasant personality. No woman wants a slob.

The next thing is to know what women want. From my “confiscate your wallet” comment, you may think that women only need men for their money. Well some women do only want men for what they can give them.

The reality is that there are many types of women. The only one way I know to finds out what a particular women wants is to talk to her.

Then of course you have to know what kind of woman you want. I am a firm believer that a man should know what physical type, educational type, career, type, spiritual type, intimacy type, and sexual activity type of woman he wants. Actually, the same applies for a woman.

One of the reasons people fail in relationships, in my opinion, is that they do not work at knowing what kind of mate they want before they get in a relationship. Nothing is worse than ordering an ostrich burger and then realizing you hate ostrich meat.

Therfore, from this blog entry you should of got that in order to get what you want you have to know what you want and you have to pursue it.

Comments
on Jun 08, 2006
But what you want and what you need may not be the same thing.
on Jun 09, 2006
But what you want and what you need may not be the same thing.

Yup! Sometimes when you do find that someone special you think to yourself that if someone had said this would be your significant other a few years back you would have just laughed at their face and walked off.
on Jun 09, 2006
You will have to ask out a hundred to get one to accept you.


Really? I think you just need to be more discriminating. 99%+ failure is terrible. Maybe they should change their style of dress, get a haircut, work on a tan, aim for someone remotely attainable, lose the 60kg of fat that's holding them back first - even shy or ugly guys should be able to do better than that.
on Jun 09, 2006
It is a tragedy to think of how many people are spending their lives wishing there was some one they could share their lives with.


Therein lies the problem. I have never spent any time wishing I had someone to spend my life with or actively trying to meet someone. People who are "working a plan" or trying to meet someone are so transparent it isn't even funny.

In my experience the best relationships just happen.
on Jun 09, 2006
Oh, for Pete's sake! Get over your freakin' self!

You know squat! Nothing! Nada! Zip! Zilch!

Your books cannot possibly give you the insight of true knowledge! Where in the hell do you get off telling ANYONE what THEY NEED to do, or MUST do?

You know what? I am really, really fat. Yep, that's me! And ugly? You have no clue! Money? Well, that's what I see in the cash register at Walmart. But.....I have something YOU DON'T! I'm wanted! I'm respected! I reciprocate! That keeps me wanted. I know, I know.........you may not believe it, but my wife knows. Why? BECAUSE! That's why.

BECAUSE I AM NOT YOU! Just because you believe you can drown the fire doesn't mean you've tamed the Dragon. But you don't get that now do you? They don't write it in any books that you have read..........have they? You just see it all in black and white.

Well, I don't. Never have. If I honestly told you of my past experiences regarding love and sex, I would not only make you think "bullshit", I would piss my wife off. She doesn't like who I was when she met me. While I have no BS as you do, I have a friend. You have a longing for it. You pretend to tell others how to cure their "disease". Me? I know what a real woman wants. And ya no what? I ain't gonna share it wit ya. If you're foolish enough to believe your own psycho-babble, your Sperm belongs where it is. In toilet paper. Or the toilet. Or..............anywhere it is not now.

As for the "gals"? It's pretty clear that they know what you are selling......and they ain't buying. Look THAT up in your books genius!
on Jun 09, 2006
One in a hundred chances, jeez dude you must be really really, ugly, fat and a jerk. In the club sceene I pick out 5 and rarely get to #3 before I'm forgeing a friendship or possibly more. So I give the worst odds at 33.3% but I bet it's really more like 50% or better for most of us.

BTW, I'm no god of men, Adonis or anything else just a regular guy.

Guys you just have to get out there and ask for a dance, ask her out ect.. Think about it the worst that can happen is getting slapped and most of the time it's simply a no thanks. If it happens hold your head up and move on to the next one. Until you find one woman that you share a commitment with, the world is full of them, an a little rejection builds charecter. Unless you let it get to you.
on Jun 09, 2006
You will have to ask out a hundred to get one to accept you.


Really? I think you just need to be more discriminating. 99%+ failure is terrible. Maybe they should change their style of dress, get a haircut, work on a tan, aim for someone remotely attainable, lose the 60kg of fat that's holding them back first - even shy or ugly guys should be able to do better than that.


I agree. I wouldn't accept a 99% failure rate in sales, let alone in dating. I'm no sex symbol, but my success rate is MUCH better than that.
on Jun 09, 2006
I wouldn't accept a 99% failure rate in sales


If I was receiving that much failure I would first check to see if I was in a lesbian establishement?