Today’s article is on duty, balance, and intimacy.
Duty means taking care of what needs to be taken care off in the home. This should be mostly easy. All you have to do to earn money is work. Money is what you need to pay the bills, buy groceries, pay rent, and put gas in your car.
Most people are able to accomplish these routine tasks. I, however, am surprised at how many people live in what I would call pig sties. It helps me to do a little bit every day. I have found letting things pile up only makes things worse.
In addition, one must make sure to find balance in life. We must work. There is no way around this for most of us.
As humans, we are social creatures. Therefore, we must have human contact. However, how do the people in a marriage meet the demands of life, work, and share intimacy.
I think that it helps to work around your work schedule. In this country the desired work schedule for most people is nine to five Monday through Friday.
I have even noticed a serious bad attitude towards work. People do not want to work and spend their workday lamenting their existence or causing their co-workers trouble.
All of these behaviors stress people out and add to the hardship people have in life. I say respect work for what it is, which is the means by which you afford life.
Therefore, the hate people have for their jobs keeps people from being able to put their life in order.
Failure to put our lives in order interferes with our ability to organize our time. If our time is not organized then how do we now when we have time for intimacy with our spouse.
Time management is just writing out the stuff that needs to be done and finding a place on the calendar to do it. Once we have this done then we can concentrate on intimacy.
Intimacy is important. The problems I have seen with people who have troubled marriages are that men are rather dry emotionally and intimately and women get frustrated at waiting for their mate to show them some type of affection, cop and attitude, and then that attitude discourages what little attempt at intimacy the man might try.
Of course, there are other problems. I believe many people did not invest the appropriate amount of time to get to know their mate well and to really be in love with the person. The result is that they are in a dissatisfying marriage and have put up emotional walls between them selves and their mate. This usually results in lack of communication, which leads to distance. Eventually people in the marriage grow apart and separate.
Today, however, I am writing about duty, balance, and intimacy. Bills and all those nagging life demands like buying groceries and going to the bank cannot be avoided. In addition, it is not the job of just one person to do all the house shores.
Moreover, I know with time management couples can meet the everyday demands and schedule time for intimacy.
The biggest mistake married couples can make is to get in to a routine where they are not meeting the basics of life and they are not being romantic and intimate with each other.