Permament psychological harm.
The last entry I included some thoughts on parenting. I forgot to mention the part about stress. One of the reasons ranting an raving is not desired is the stress on the child and the parent.
Children do not have our understanding of vocabulary and human behavior. Yelling mostly is interpreted as a threat, which illicit fear responses. Which in other words means you are scaring the child and inflicting psychological distress.
The parent also senses fear response of guilt and prosecution. Even in this liberal society people are still receiving the messages of good and bad. When a parent rants and raves at a child he or she may feel ashamed, guilt, and expect to be punished.
The fear of punishment and societies’ reaction brings stress to the parent. Eventually the cycle between doing a behavior and fearing the reprocations can lead to enough stress that parent’s judgment can be clouded by stress and the parent disciplines the child in an abrasive manner.
In addition, what is mental health? Well it is not living a life free of stress. There is always going to be stress in life. However, dealing with stress in a rational and non-toxic manner I would say is good mental health.
Therefore, why do we want to be the reason for own distress, whether we are parenting or doing anything in life?
I have come to the conclusion peace in life is having balance between the demands of life and our emotions. We can overreact. That is an option. However, we can also evaluate things in a more realistic manner.
Parenting does not have to be the worst job on the planet. I find kids to be enjoyable and if you are nice and keep then entertained they will be more cooperative.
No one is responsive in a good way to screams and verbal abuse. In addition, all this abuse will eventually cause psychological issues in the child. I wonder if some parents hate their children so much that they would want to cause permanent psychological damage.