Thoughts on Oprah, Borak, religion, and marriage.
POLITICS
It appears that people are impressed with Oprah Wimphrey’s support for Borak Obama. To this I say no matter how much attention or support Obama gets from the rich and famous he still is a naïve and inexperienced person who does not deserve the presidency of the Unites States of America.
I have heard him speak. I am surprised some one with a law degree and who used to be a law professor has such little understanding on how America’s business should be handled.
Therefore, to me it does not matter that Oprah is out campaigning for Obama. In my opinion, the only thing she has done to have such a following is cry when the camera is pointing at her.
The business managers in the corporation known as Oprah are the ones that have made her rich, not her business savvy.
Therefore, even though Oprah is baking him Borak is still a pony that cannot win.
In addition, Oprah was out talking about being from the south and going to church very Sunday. It seems to me she wants to bank on all this religious-political speech. The question I have is can a 53 year old women who has never been married but has had the same boyfriend for over 20 years really speak with authority on spiritual matters.
RELIGION
I say not. In my opinion Oprah is the exact representative of the modern religious person. They bestow the title of religious person on them selves, but they do not follow the tenets of the religion.
This is the problem with many of us. We think we can define the standards we can live by in our lives. God set the standard. No one can truly call them selves a person of the Christian faith if they do not work at meeting the standards of God.
Are we perfect? No. However, what God wants should be more important then what we want.
MENTAL HEALTH
Today, I am pondering what a person should know before getting married. I think it would be helpful to know what you want out of life, what your expectation are in the marriage, how much you trust your mate to meet your expectation, and how to communicate romantic love.
In the modern world many people had bad messengers about the elements of life. Either the person said something and modeled something totally different and/or the person did not take an interest in talking to the child as the child developed.
This last point is why I keep saying not to think that every one thinks like you. People think the way life has thought them how to think. Everyone’s experience in life is different.
Today, life teaches us to be more idealistic (dreamers) than realistic. Dreams are good because they give us an idea about how to pursue life. However, some where down the line we are going to accept the fact of what is really in front of us.
I think most marriages end in divorce because people cannot distinguish between idealism and realism. We think every thing should be the way we want it to be and when it is not we start looking for a way out.
This may come from thinking that love and marriage is about looking for someone to fall in love with, who you spend with, while you have sex, and through indirect speech you agree to a marriage. People in the modern world do not take time to get know them selves or their mates. Then they enter in to big entanglements such as living together and/or having babies.
A clearly defined vision of ones self and ones mate is the better way to go. This way to mature, respectful, individuals, who care about each other, can cooperate in order to achieve some common goals in life.
Moreover, the best way to move to my next point is to illustrate what happens after time without proper romantic communication. In time, one person will feel unfulfilled, resentful, and close them selves of emotionally. The other person will cop an attitude and may become rude and/or disrespectful of his or her mate.
It is human to want affection. Everyone wants to be told they are loved, held, caressed, comforted, inspired, and motivated. Joy and peace come from receiving these gifts from a mate.
However, to many people in a marriage think all the work was done before the marriage. Romance is something that should always be in a marriage. Feeling it is good. Expressing it is better.