What young people should be thinking about.
Young Marriage
(revised 07/04/2004)
Things have not changed. We are to do today as we did yesterday. Man and woman marry, live in love, create children, raise their children like good Christians, and make a contribution to society.
Though we have spent the last thirty years in techno-delirium, the laws God established for us have not changed. Techno-delirium is the mental agitation from watching TV, listening to radio, and watching movies. These devices have presented to us many freedoms, influences, and temptations. Many have grown up in the secular techno-delirium society.
In this society, they have heard God’s name with their ears but have not felt Him with their hearts. The result has been that many do not know the meaning or purpose of life. Media is giving the impression that we are to evolve to some super intelligent being that will transcend time and space.
I will not debate what secular humans will or will not do. The purpose of this short essay is to speak to young people about marriage. I believe that the second best defense against the horrors of life is a good marriage.
Young people are looking to careers and education and not focusing much on marriage. I believe this to be a condition of both believers and non-believers. My concern of course is believers. Believers, however, appear to have an added purpose. This is to save the world.
To you I say the world is not to be saved. God has not lied to anyone. Though we ourselves may not have spoken to every individual about salvation and eternal life, we can be assured that God has spoken to everyone.
In this conversation many have fallen in love with God. Of these people a good number have come in to the Christian community willingly. Others have stayed stuck between the world of the good and the world of the bad.
Our job is to speak god’s message so those that are lost so they can find their way back. With our speech we can bring god’s harmonious message to the ears of believers that have spent years hearing the commotion of the secular world. These way we may help God save. The secular world will not be saved.
This point is important. Young people you are blessed to have compassion for the world. However, keep in minds that God made man and woman.
Some of you will go on to be important people in God’s army. The majority of us, however, will live our importance in building good families.
You are young and wondering if life still has any purpose. It does. That purpose is to find a spouse and have a quality life while you raise good Christian children.
It is not hard to change your focus from am idealized view on intimacy to a real perspective on how to care for another person and work at enjoying your lives together.
I think first you have to be willing to see that your purpose is to be in a loving, committed, and enjoyable marriage.
In addition, you have to see yourself as having been assigned the task of having and raising good children.
The modern world’s messages are very distinct. God’s message has not changed.
Family, children, marriage, love, intimacy, joy happiness, and service are still very important to God.
As important as careers and education are they do not compare to what God wants from us.
I am concerned that to many young Christians are looking forward to being great evangelist, authors, and directors of big churches.
In addition, I will make one correction. Secular people have it worse. I said earlier that I only wanted to speak to believers. The really is that secular people need to consider the basics of life also.
Sex is not marriage. Living in close proximity to another person is not marriage either. Having some one to fight with or to practice our neurosis on is also not marriage.
Marriage is the union of two people in heart and soul. It requires a lot of patience, understanding, love, intimacy, humor, recreation, vacations, and conversations.
It also requires that men be more than couch warmers and sports fans. Women need to stop treating their husbands as if they were their children.
Both people need to respect each other. Men you need to be more involved. Women you need to more forthcoming about your intimacy likes and dislikes.
Mature and grown up people are needed for a marriage to work, not people who will only do what they want.
Our modern techno mediated human development has left us with a very superficial perspective on life.
We need to sit done with our selves and figure out whom we are and what we have to offer a spouse.
Young people need to start thinking about choosing a mate and the family they plan to build.