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Published on January 8, 2004 By jesseledesma In Personal Relationships
Of all of the issues I can speak of, human decency concerns me the most.

For a long time I have feared that we have created an American culture were people consider themselves capable of condeming criminals and people with bad press.

All one has to do is hear that a person is violating a social moral norm and that is enough to no longer consider that person human.

Then we can look down on him or her and not give them any opportunuties. I also fear that to many people are picking fights with their nieghbors by mean stares and sabatoge.

Many of the people I talk to spend much of their time finding flaws in people around them and criticising them for these flaws. Some others spend their time deliberately causing other people problems and them condenming them whem they get upset.

I attribute all these behaviors to people being dissatisfied with their lives and people fearing that they are loosing control.

The modern day experience has affected people very much. This experience is stressful. People not only are overwhelmed by life's responsibilities but we are suffering from our repression of emotions.

It would be great If I could say that I have confidence that the majority of people living in America had a great developmental experience. The reality is that I cannot.

From everything I see in people I must conclude that growing up was rather stressful for many.

The good news is that it is within us to change. Life is to precious to spend it in "angst".

In addition, as I have said before only you know your true reality.

I know for myself that I have had enough stress and no longer desire any more. I am also concerned about how we are treating each other. Nothing good can come of any more violence or turmoil.

Moreover, why should we spend our life in stress when we can start little by little resolving our issues.

I find thinking a concern through, measuring the good and bad, and making plans for change as a helpful routine to resolve stress.

I also like to challenge myself to be a peaceful person.

I know I will leave this world. I hope I don't leave without making a contribution towards something good.

It is my wish that people take ownership of their lives and live a great experience.

Then maybe decent people can feel good about their lives.
Comments
on Jan 08, 2004
Good to hear that you're so altruistic. But nobody wants to hear about perfect people, dear. (No, I never call anyone dear, I'm just being weird.) People read moral articles because they struggle and they want to know other people are struggling with the same issue; hopefully, in hearing the stories of other people, they will be encouraged to overcome those shortcomings.

No, humans are not decent. Congrats for your perception, but that's nothing new... actually, as far as that goes, you can read my last article at http://dankaschel.joeuser.com/index.asp?AID=4301. I'm not decent, you're not decent, none of us are. But some of us are trying, and if one of those people is you, then you have my support. Keep it up.

~Dan