Is the Perfect LIfe Impossible

Early Childhood Experiences' Negative Effects on Society

Published on August 2, 2005 By jesseledesma In Current Events

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The perfect life is one where you are in tune to the reality of life. It is great to dream. However, trying to fulfill your dreams when the environmental resources are not there leads to frustration and disillusion.

In my opinion, what makes life difficult is the battle between unexplainable emotions and current philosophy.

We all have an idea about our position in life. Sometimes we find ourselves without the spirit to invest the necessary energy to succeed.

Mental health professional believe that there are three kinds of parents. There is the one who believes he or she is a drill sergeant in the army and bellows orders. There is the one who are too lenient. Then there is the one that listens, imposes limits, and helps the child.

There are also abusive forms of parenting. However, these forms are not the focus of this essay.

I say that we are basically unable to accomplish a satisfying life because how our developmental experience lacked in the necessary resources to grow properly.

What is proper growth? I would say that it is growth that allows for emotional balance and zero hang-ups.

When a child’s needs are not properly met, the child develops anger and or sadness. A prolonged exposure to these emotions leads to fear that people may know about their emotional immaturity. This is what I mean by hang-ups.

I always caution people not to presume to think for other people with their own brain. My brain knows what I have experiences.

It would be impossible for two people, even if they live in the same house, to experience the exact same thing.

Therefore, if you had it great or different from what I am talking about here, good for you. However, do not think all people have your experiences.

When I started to look at the troubles of society I came to certain conclusions. One of them is that we all have needs and when our needs are not met, we develop difficult emotions.

This explains to me why there are people who behave different from what they think.

This also explains why people do not succeed in the elements of life.

I would say most people have a good vision of life and desire to get it. However, we all know of people who have been a dissapointment to other people or who have hurt other people.

We ourselves may have been hurt by some one and still find it hard to understand why they treated us that way.

Okay I am getting of track. Parents your child needs you 24/7. He or she needs you to make life interesting, enjoyable, and educational.

Your child is not responsible for you marrying the wrong person or not having the position in life you desire.

The minute your child was born you where hired as a parent of a developing child.

That child does not see things as you do. So yelling at him or her because they do not listen to you is not going to get him or her to listen.

Establishing a loving relationship with smiles, hugs, happy voices, and simple to understand lessons will condition the behaviors you want in to the child.

In addition, there is no perfect utopia. Raising a happy well-adjusted child requires patience and continual effort.

All you parents who allow your children to spend a lot of time alone are wrong. I know most people think it is okay to let the children play in their rooms while the adults talk.

One with out you being there how do you know what they are doing. Two, if they are not around you how are they going to pick up your values.

Now, to the real point. American society is suffering. Every day we keep seeing an increase in dissatisfied people.

Dissatisfied people, living difficult jobs, do not meet their civic responsibilities or make a positive contribution to society.

I would say that all things start with God. Today, we are to serve God by serving Jesus Christ.

The advantage is that even though life brings you hardship you know you will make because Christ is there in the battle with you.

You may believe differently. That is okay. However, I have previously said-in other articles-that your life is a measure of the value of your philosophy.

Therefore, be honest with your self about your happiness. If you are truly happy person and have an uncomplicated life, good for you.

However, if you are not fairing well, don’t you think it is time to start rethinking your philosophy.

See, that is what I am trying to do here on this blog. I want people to understand themselves and their environment in order for them to make better choices, have a better life, and better contribution to a better society.

We all matter and we are all interconnected. What I do affects you and what you do effects me. You and I can be mature, good citizens, making a positive contribution to our society or we can be immature children, trying to destroy each other.

I hate the fact that I am could be responsible for child abuse or any other tragedy. In the last decades, we have grown in wisdom.

I say we now know enough to eradicate many social ills. However, if we sit by being nothing more than armchair critics, children will continue to be abused, woman will continue to be raped, people will kill themselves because life is a disappointment, and we will see many more tragedies.

There in lies the tragedy. We have so much. Yet, we do very little with our resources.

If a two year old can to your door with a tear stained face and ask you to help her because her father wants to hurt her, would you turn her away.

I know most of you would not.

In addition, I am not asking you to take on the ills of the world. I believe in everything the bible says about what is to become of this world. It is not going to be pretty for a lot of people.

However, I know that if we all tend to our business in a responsible, positive, and healthy manner then we will have great resources to harness.

People with big hearts, willing to make a difference, have made great contributions to people in need.

Comments

celtic Mist

on Aug 02, 2005

I just happened to come across your webpage - flick of the wrist and all that.... I'm guessing you are an American, that is, born and raised in "Christian" America - like I was born and raised in Roman-Catholic Ireland... and so, I'm interested in your Jesus Christ connections? Want to elaborate on your "christian" upbringing?

Yours sincerely,
Celtic Mist

ZULIE

on Aug 02, 2005

Amen brother! Good Job Jesse!

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