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jesseledesma's Articles In Personal Relationships
November 28, 2007 by jesseledesma
The last entry I included some thoughts on parenting. I forgot to mention the part about stress. One of the reasons ranting an raving is not desired is the stress on the child and the parent. Children do not have our understanding of vocabulary and human behavior. Yelling mostly is interpreted as a threat, which illicit fear responses. Which in other words means you are scaring the child and inflicting psychological distress. The parent also senses fear response of guilt a...
November 21, 2007 by jesseledesma
In this day of giving thanks I give thanks for God. We can very easily get lost, if left to our own devices. For all you do, even though we do not deserve it, thank you very much God. Thank you for your love. Thank you for your concern. Thank you for your guidance. Thank you for your protection. Thank you for dying so we could live. Thank you for not giving up on us. Thank you for everything you have done for me that I have forgotten.
August 10, 2007 by jesseledesma
This article is going to be on why behavior is learned. First, I will start by defining the term “learned”. By “learned”, I mean that the individual had exposure with environmental information that influenced a change in behavior. Here I am talking about initial exposure with the environmental element. This environmental element can be a person, TV, radio, newspaper, magazine, or anything a person can see, hear, smell, taste, and/or touch. Now, current science has suggested that a p...
June 11, 2007 by jesseledesma
Life is a disappointment because everything is a lie. The idea that if you work and manage your money responsibly you will succeed is a lie. Romanic love is a lie. Yes, we all have the need to be in an intimate relationship, but real love with a special person is a lie. It is not that you cannot meet some one and fall in love. It is that for some of us love is such a spiritual and extreme experience that only one particular person will suffice. In addition, I do not want to lower my...
May 17, 2007 by jesseledesma
Incase you are wondering the saga does continue. My mother’s husband has been accused of committing a serious crime. He is gone out of her house and my mom does not want him to come back. No one else in my family’s homes is an appropriate place for her to want to live in. Guess who stepped up and offered to live with her to help her with her expenses. This new event for one means that I cannot have my privacy. When I live, alone it does not matter how I feel. When you are around pe...
May 15, 2007 by jesseledesma
Today death is on my mind. Mr. Jerry Falwell of Thomas Road Baptist Church and president of Liberty University, where I graduated, died early today. The news media maligned this Christian for many years because of his statements on social issues. Mr. Falwell has been noted as saying AIDS is a punishment of God against homosexuals, that Sept 11 was a curse of God because of the immorality in America, among other controversial statements. A little after September 11, 2001 I heard, some...
May 13, 2007 by jesseledesma
I wonder what we are living for. I know that the majority has managed to chip out a life with marriage and children. It is just unfortunate that the news media only pays attention to the 20 percent or so that are experiencing a crisis. It is even more tragic that many people allow the forces of their anxiety run their lives. I think that the majority of bad decisions we make are the result of fear. Fear seems to make us react quickly and with very little thought. The result may be...
May 5, 2007 by jesseledesma
The state of affairs in America is very sorry. People are having a hard time identifying a life, maintaining a life, and even building a life. It is like overnight every thing became unaffordable and life turned to attack certain people. Many people are trying hard but fighting in vain. This results in social problems, increase in mental health problems, and lack of political involvement. The worse thing is I cannot see an answer to the problem. Well, that would be wrong. I am a...
April 29, 2007 by jesseledesma
Who are we to think we have complete control of our lives? The truth is that we do have control and the choices we make will have complete impact in our destiny. I was thinking today about message I could bring to people. This is a hard question because I don’t believe in anything anymore. Today was a good example of the perversity of my life. On Friday, the taxi I work broke down. There is supposed to be a wrecker service available because the people I rent the taxi from also own t...
April 23, 2007 by jesseledesma
Today I will write about whom some of the women of my life were and what were my goals with them. First, like anyone else when I was young I was romanced by the idea of romance. I would my self dancing underneath the moonlight, talking with the woman, exchanging some words of affection, taking an interest, and many nights of love making. Now the depression is too much to deal with and I know I would not be able to give a woman the attention she deserves. However, the first girl I r...
April 22, 2007 by jesseledesma
If life were everything we expected, there would be no disappointment. However, do we really know what is appropriate to expect from life? I was meditating and I asked myself if I remember when I acquired my philosophy of life. I know for a long time I have been thinking about human behavior in terms of human psychology. However, what I wanted to know from myself was when did I receive an understanding about everything that encompasses life. The truth is that I do not know. If I w...
April 15, 2007 by jesseledesma
The last significant time of my life is right now. This battle with screw U TEP is the news of my life today. Before this time was finishing of 2006 and entering 2007 fighting to keep my sanity. Before then, I was keeping my head down and trying to just get through it. Then I ran in to the financial struggle of entering 2007. It has been depressing and exhausting. Through it all, I have trying to maintain some semblance of a normal life. I wonder what that is. Today, a profound ...
April 15, 2007 by jesseledesma
The saga continues. Apparently, I am registered for a course during the summer session. However, I am not registered in the office of admissions at screw U TEP. Now some one explain how that could happen. As for the taxi, it still sucks. My personal life I am not going to do anything about. There is just no reason to include a woman in my madness. Besides when you are going to be romantically involved, I think you should be a real person with gainfull employment. Well at least...
April 12, 2007 by jesseledesma
Well screw U TEP (this is what I call it) launched its second missile across my borders today. I received a letter informing me that there were some papers missing for my financial aid application and this was the second notice they have sent me. It is the first one I received. It really does not matter. I already have my mind set on working the long hours to finance this part of my educational career. I am not surprised though. This is the level service at stupid UTEP. In fact, if...
April 11, 2007 by jesseledesma
The life of Mr. Jesus Lopez-Ledesma: day two of writings. Ok. Therefore, what is on my mind today? Well, it really does not matter cause I plan to dedicate my entry today to God. The reason is that I do not believe you can live my 41 year old life and not learn a thing or two about how life functions. What have I learned? Well I have concluded that no matter how hard you work life will always be against you. This last statement scares me. I am afraid of the reproach from God. ...